Sunday, March 6, 2011

30Day Husband Encouragement Challenge day 15 & 16

A few weeks ago, I signed up to receive 30 daily emails as a challenge to become a better wife to my husband.

Day 15
"Let your speech always be with grace." (Colossians 4:6a)

Focus today on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your community. In this challenge to encourage, ask: "If everything my family and friends knew about my husband came from a filter of what I've said about him, what would they think of my husband?" Do you need to change the filter?

Do you speak positively about your husband to others, or do you complain and criticize? Your speech should reflect 1 Corinthians 13 love. Your words should be kind, and should never "rejoice in iniquity" (v. 6). Refrain from listing your husband's faults to others. Satan likes to trick us in this area; be wary of sharing barbed "prayer requests."

Remember, "Love will cover a multitude of sins" (1 Peter 4:8b). Present your husband before others today in a strong, positive manner. Slip in a "good word" for your spouse. Resist the urge to correct or belittle him in front of others. Some of what you say may come back to him, and you want your words to be sweet, building him up and never tearing him down.

Don't forget: you are always criticizing--or encouraging--before an audience. God hears your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your speech be always seasoned with grace.

"Grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ."
(2 Peter 3:18a)

Sometimes we live so close to our spouse that we fail to see him as others do; we only see our husband's faults.

Take a step back. Perhaps he is growing spiritually in ways you have failed to appreciate. How can you encourage his growth in a fresh, new way?

Remember--your husband is accountable to God for his spiritual development. You are accountable to God to encourage and not hinder that growth.

Can you identify an area of spiritual strength in your husband? Does he pray or read his Bible regularly? Does he like to read about or discuss spiritual matters? Does he go to church with you? Is he a spiritual leader? What do others say about him? If you can identify a specific area, praise him for that.
If not, pray earnestly that God will work in his heart, and watch for signs of spiritual growth in the future.


  1. Thanks for stopping by.
    Why 12 weeks off - I usually only take 8 weeks off from running each year to let my body recover from the hard training / high miles. I took this tip from some elite ultra runners, and it works. It also helps to prevent burnout and get some quality family time in. I had been racing hard for two years and in need of a break.

  2. I just want you to know that although I am not doing this marriage challenge with you, you are still rubbing off on me. I had something right on the tip of my tongue yesterday and managed to reign it in because you and your recent posts popped into my head :-)

  3. I must say I'm learning through you posting these challenge emails. "Let your speech always be with grace" Hmmmmm- does speech include text messaging? Kidding but a great reminder through this post.

    I'm behind and I just got through reading and commenting on your last post! I'm going to shoot you some mail later today:)

  4. I poked Mo in church yesterday to keep her from hitting her head on the pew in front of us. That has to count for something, no?

  5. Being at the half way point - has this been a journey of "struggle" or of a "gentle reminder"? I find that this is a very interesting project that you have undertaken. I have often wondered if "married couple retreats" discuss such issues? I also wonder if the men have such challenges: 30 day etc.?

    I know that curiousity killed the cat and Peter never really got it - I hope that I am not asking and wonder as Peter did......


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