Monday, March 7, 2011

30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge- day 17

30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge
From a series of emails I signed up to receive:

Day 17

"And the LORD God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." (Genesis 2:18)

God says that it is not good for man to be alone. But the way some women criticize their mates, their husbands may long for solitude. Be careful today not to criticize your mate, but look for ways to encourage him personally and publicly.

Speaking of communication, does your husband communicate with you? God has made you a companion and helper for your husband, and part of being "one flesh" with him is the privilege of sharing and discussing personal needs and concerns. Thank God for that wonderful gift. Thank your husband for communicating with you.

If your spouse does not communicate as you wish, look for ways that he communicates that are normal for him--smiling at you, nodding his head, even a pleasant "grunt!"--(hahaha ...couldn't help that!) and then thank him for letting you know that he cares. Perhaps he needs to be lovingly taught how to communicate. Be patient with him . . . and listen when he does speak.


I was asked a few questions about the challenge in a comment from my last post. 

Being at the half way point - has this been a journey of "struggle" or of a "gentle reminder"?
Both. It totally depends on my attitude for the day and whether I am really feeling like investing in it that day. Life circumstances can add a little pressure to things and make it more challenging. The hardest part is probably just controlling my tongue. Controlling my thoughts first helps with that =D .

I find that this is a very interesting project that you have undertaken. I have often wondered if "married couple retreats" discuss such issues? I have never been to one, but have heard good reports from them. Maybe another reader could answer that better. I have watched a great marriage DVD series though, called Love and Respect. I highly recommend it.

I also wonder if the men have such challenges: 30 day etc.? I think so...I am not sure where to find them though. This challenge project came from the Revive Our Hearts website (geared to women) - which is affiliated with Life Action Ministries (geared to men and women). There are some really good resources there and some wonderful videos and podcasts free to see/hear.

Training related:
All quiet on the front with running. So glad to have the bike. I have been doing more research on the injury and how to proceed. I might be posting more on this later.

Really I am not sure if Boston is a wash or not at this point.

One forum I went to had some interesting threads about peroneal tendon injuries. I also got an email from a very good runner - older lady- who had the same issue at about the same time in her Boston training last year. She scaled back but kept going.. She also got in a 22 miler first and was in March when It happened (I was in mid Feb).

Still so many questions....


  1. This statement made me think: Perhaps he needs to be lovingly taught how to communicate.

    OTOH, what I think is the right way to communicate may really just be my preferred way to communicate and I'm not always right. ; )

    Sorry you're having to rethink Boston, but maybe you could still run it, like the runner you mentioned, but on fewer miles. I hope so.

  2. Good point Tina, about preferred communication :)

  3. I love your 30 day challenge. I have been trying to be more aware of my thoughs and actions towards my husband! I really hope you are able to go to Boston and run pain free :)

  4. How are you feeling about the running thing? You seem so at peace or at least trusting that it is out of your control. This is so impressive. I would be FREAKING! :) Or maybe I would be calm and level headed and trusting in God after having so many great friends like you to share your wisdom with me and help me process. Thinking of you and cheering for you Raina!

  5. I think my husband and I communicate well most of the time, but then again we don't have kids yet. haha. it is a conscious effort.
    I hope to hear more about your injury. Praying for healing!

  6. It sounds like you're somewhat coping with your injury. I really hope you're able to continue and run Boston.

  7. I would think my mood for the day would dictate how I voiced my thoughts. I know when I'm stressed, those in my path tend to get the wrath of Jill :). But for the most part, I do try to think positively before I respond.

    Fingers cross for Boston and injury free!!!!


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