My husband is a GREAT dad!
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." (Ephesians 5:22)
Women who are constantly negative toward their husbands--especially by speaking evil of them to others--show great disrespect. Determine not to do that today (or ever!). This challenge to encourage is closely connected to submission. *
Men respond to women who respect them. What do you respect about your husband? Part of that respect includes submission to his authority. Let your husband know how respecting him makes it easier to submit to his leadership. Show your respect in public by listening to him and smiling at him when he speaks. Place your hand in his as you walk together.
If you feel there is nothing to respect, search harder . . . nearly every man has some core characteristic that can be nurtured and respected. In any case, you must still cultivate a submissive spirit to his position of leadership . . . "as to the Lord."
* My thoughts on submission:
I still have trouble with this word. I had trouble with the word "submit" from birth, I think. Totally NOT in my nature.
The problem I have (had) is in connecting submission with inferiority.
Is it the inferior one who submits? Not so. It is a choice to submit.
A household can only have one true leader. With two leaders there is strife. I am trying to make the choice, daily, to step back and let my husband be that leader. It tests me to my CORE. I don't step back from the controls easily. (You may or may not have already gathered that based on what you've read in this blog. If you've met me in person, you are aware. =D )
"With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love." (Ephesians 4:2)
Part of the difficulty you may face as you continue in this 30-day challenge is that you really are struggling to find positive things to praise your husband for. Perhaps the problem is not with your husband. Have you checked your own heart?
Sometimes we get disillusioned because of our own unreasonable or unrealistic expectations (Proverbs 13:12). It may not be that our mates are doing something wrong; it's simply that we expect too much in some areas.
Our expectations must be met in God alone, and then we will have the right perspective to ask God for the healing and grace we need to respond to others.
How sad that we give more grace to others than to those in our own homes. Today, try to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Verbally thank your husband for what he is already doing.
I finally am caught up with my emails on here! My blog was a little behind the emails I had received, as I started the blog series a little after I got the first one.
You can imagine my surprise when I opened day 12 this morning! It is so relevant to my life, my marriage and even my running situation.
My own heart has been so self-absorbed that it is often hard to consider Jon's needs. Perhaps the best part of this challenge has been the changes I am seeing in myself. This 12 day stretch is probably the longest I have ever gone consciously considering everything I say and do and how it affects my hubby.
I am already thinking that I will try to continue the main aspects of this challenge after it is over. Heh. Maybe I will re-sign up for the emails. =D
Big thank you to those of you who have been commenting and encouraging me in this along the way!!! Some of your blogs I need to visit; I haven't been doing much reading and commenting, but I am thinking of each of you! Your comments give me great hope. And hope is believing in things unseen!