"Be swift to hear, slow to speak . . ." (James 1:19b)
We are often so busy speaking that we don't take time to listen. We are so quick to offer a comment--negative or positive--that we don't really "hear" our husband's heart. Remember, we have two ears and only one mouth. We need to listen more!
As you continue in your 30-day challenge, hear the Lord's admonition: "Be swift to hear."
If listening is a real problem for you, play a game with yourself. See if you can listen to your husband for one whole day, only speaking when asked a question. If your husband notices the difference, explain that you are learning to listen more--not only to God, but also to him.
One easy way to express admiration for your husband is to ask a question about something he enjoys, and then listen to his response. If it's an area of personal familiarity, keep asking questions until you learn something you didn't know, then tell him, "Wow, I didn't know that!"
"Behold, you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!" (Song of Solomon 1:16a)
We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved. Early love letters probably reflected your admiration of your husband, but if you're not careful, your spouse will forget why you were drawn to him. If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.
When we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent
admiring them. As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, "How can I admire him?"
Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the
characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical
characteristic, or something else?
Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easy-going confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him!
Boy, Day 9 is tricky. Keeping quiet is usually something I only do when I am trying to keep out of a fight. I am afraid that he might think I was giving the silent treatment, so I'd better give a head's up!
Still riding the bike. Tested out a "jog" for about 400 M yesterday. Not totally pain free, but gives me some hope that I will be running again soon.
I did a little research on paroneal tendon injuries, and I still can't say with 100 % surety what I did to my foot. I have some ideas, though. I suspect I either got a really spot specific tendinitis that came on rather quickly, OR...I suffered a strain or pull to the paroneal tendons behind and below my right ankle. Either way, I am not going to go in and see someone for a sports injury (when all other aspects of my life are completely functional), so that's as concrete as it's going to get.
If you are really really interested in this injury stuff, here is a little more:
(from http://www.foothealthfacts.org/footankleinfo/peroneal-tendon.htm )
What Are the Peroneal Tendons?A tendon is a band of tissue that connects a muscle to a bone. The two peroneal tendons in the foot run side-by-side behind the outer ankle bone. One peroneal tendon attaches to the outer part of the midfoot, while the other tendon runs under the foot and attaches near the inside of the arch. The main function of the peroneal tendons is to stabilize the foot and ankle and protect them from sprains.
Causes and Symptoms of Peroneal Tendon InjuriesPeroneal tendon injuries may be acute (occurring suddenly) or chronic (developing over a period of time). They most commonly occur in individuals who participate in sports that involve repetitive ankle motion. In addition, people with higher arches are at risk for developing peroneal tendon injuries. Basic types of peroneal tendon injuries are tendonitis, tears, and subluxation.
Tendonitis is an inflammation of one or both tendons. The inflammation is caused by activities involving repetitive use of the tendon, overuse of the tendon, or trauma (such as an ankle sprain). Symptoms of tendonitis include:
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I am just starting to realize that whatever God's will is for me in this race is really what's best. I know I have said that before - or meant to- but now I really mean it. Maybe before I just wanted to feel that way. Now I see that I don't have a choice.
In the last week I have had to really let some things go, emotionally, and surrender what I have been clinging dearly to.
Even now, I want to cry. I really wanted this to be a GREAT race, I mean a REALLY SUPER FAST, BEST RACE IN MY LIFE RACE.
Now that I am supposed to be in my peak mileage and am riding a trainer bike, I can look back and say, "You know. Lord. This race really wasn't going to be to glorify you." It was for ME. I wanted to glorify me, my perfect plan, the execution of the best race I could do. Where was trust in all of that?
Trust was misplaced.
Glory was misdirected.
Humility was absent.
I needed this. I really did.
Who knows now what God wants for this race. I don't...but He has my full attention.