Tuesday, March 1, 2011

30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge Day9, Day 10 & Boston training thoughts

If you are new to my blog or just coming back, I recently signed up to receive some daily emails as part of a challenge to be a better encourager to my husband.

Day 9
"Be swift to hear, slow to speak . . ." (James 1:19b)
We are often so busy speaking that we don't take time to listen. We are so quick to offer a comment--negative or positive--that we don't really "hear" our husband's heart. Remember, we have two ears and only one mouth. We need to listen more!

As you continue in your 30-day challenge, hear the Lord's admonition: "Be swift to hear."
If listening is a real problem for you, play a game with yourself. See if you can listen to your husband for one whole day, only speaking when asked a question. If your husband notices the difference, explain that you are learning to listen more--not only to God, but also to him.

One easy way to express admiration for your husband is to ask a question about something he enjoys, and then listen to his response. If it's an area of personal familiarity, keep asking questions until you learn something you didn't know, then tell him, "Wow, I didn't know that!"

Day 10
"Behold, you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!" (Song of Solomon 1:16a)

We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved. Early love letters probably reflected your admiration of your husband, but if you're not careful, your spouse will forget why you were drawn to him. If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.

When we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent
admiring them. As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, "How can I admire him?"
Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the
characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical
characteristic, or something else?

Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easy-going confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him!

Boy, Day 9 is tricky. Keeping quiet is usually something I only do when I am trying to keep out of a fight. I am afraid that he might think I was giving the silent treatment, so I'd better give a head's up!

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Training stuff:
Still riding the bike. Tested out a "jog" for about 400 M yesterday. Not totally pain free, but gives me some hope that I will be running again soon.

I did a little research on paroneal tendon injuries, and I still can't say with 100 % surety what I did to my foot. I have some ideas, though. I suspect I either got a really spot specific tendinitis that came on rather quickly, OR...I suffered a strain or pull to the paroneal tendons behind and below my right ankle. Either way, I am not going to go in and see someone for a sports injury (when all other aspects of my life are completely functional), so that's as concrete as it's going to get.

If you are really really interested in this injury stuff, here is a little more:
(from http://www.foothealthfacts.org/footankleinfo/peroneal-tendon.htm )

What Are the Peroneal Tendons?PeronealA tendon is a band of tissue that connects a muscle to a bone. The two peroneal tendons in the foot run side-by-side behind the outer ankle bone. One peroneal tendon attaches to the outer part of the midfoot, while the other tendon runs under the foot and attaches near the inside of the arch. The main function of the peroneal tendons is to stabilize the foot and ankle and protect them from sprains.
Causes and Symptoms of Peroneal Tendon InjuriesPeroneal tendon injuries may be acute (occurring suddenly) or chronic (developing over a period of time). They most commonly occur in individuals who participate in sports that involve repetitive ankle motion. In addition, people with higher arches are at risk for developing peroneal tendon injuries. Basic types of peroneal tendon injuries are tendonitis, tears, and subluxation.
Tendonitis is an inflammation of one or both tendons. The inflammation is caused by activities involving repetitive use of the tendon, overuse of the tendon, or trauma (such as an ankle sprain). Symptoms of tendonitis include:
  • Pain
  • Swelling
  • Warmth to the touch
Anyhooo....it's been a few days since I've ran and I have a LOT of thoughts about it. I have shed some tears. But, I am recovering. I am healing. I am learning.

I am just starting to realize that whatever God's will is for me in this race is really what's best. I know I have said that before - or meant to- but now I really mean it. Maybe before I just wanted to feel that way. Now I see that I don't have a choice.

In the last week I have had to really let some things go, emotionally, and surrender what I have been clinging dearly to.

Even now, I want to cry. I really wanted this to be a GREAT race, I mean a REALLY SUPER FAST, BEST RACE IN MY LIFE RACE.

Now that I am supposed to be in my peak mileage and am riding a trainer bike, I can look back and say, "You know. Lord. This race really wasn't going to be to glorify you." It was for ME. I wanted to glorify me, my perfect plan, the execution of the best race I could do. Where was trust in all of that?

Trust was misplaced.

Glory was misdirected.

Humility was absent.

I needed this. I really did.

Who knows now what God wants for this race. I don't...but He has my full attention.

10 comments:

  1. This may sound stupid... but do you think a arch support would help you heal? Can you run with an arch support? Wishing you the best. The best will happen.

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  2. awww, Raina. I'm hearing you. So not easy to trust! So much easier said than done when we say we believe that God has a plan and everything is for good and has a purpose. So easy to say. Not easy to believe and surrender. Praying for you tonight girlie!

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  3. I'm crying here. Encouraging I know....

    Your last few paragraphs-so so powerful. My heart breaks for you amidst your incredible perspective on this. Instead of encouraging you, I'm encouraged BY you. You turn this around and make ME want to be a better person. You are truly an amazing amazing woman. Blessed to "know" you!

    Hopeful with the 400 test jog that you will be hitting the road again soon soon!! Still time to pull off a great race! Big things in store for you Raina, sooner or later! NO DOUBT!!! Hang in there. LOTS of prayers!

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  4. That is where my foot has been hurting as well. I have slightly high arches and I wonder now if that is part of the problem with my right foot. I tend to feel better when I run with a band that wraps around my ankle putting pressure on my Achilles and also one that wraps under the foot across the arch. Hmm, maybe I should buy a second one and see if my left foot that has just always been "sore" improves.

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  5. This is a very intersting posts for many reasons. I wrote a post last night with very similar overtones. Was not going to post it - I may be rethinking it now. The majority of my thoughts came from James.... very interesting.

    Hope that you are back on the road soon. Peace and Godspeed.

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  6. Your final sentiments were so raw and honest. Thanks for sharing with us. It's good to get a little perspective, although I wish it wasn't so hard sometimes. Praying for healing!!

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  7. Love your humility and honesty. You seem to be a person of great integrity.

    Peroneal - if that is what it is - is a bugger. I have had to deal with it on and off now for almost a year now. Three things have worked best for me. One of which you might not like. Oh, and forget going to Doc over it. I have gone down that road several times. They tell you what you already now. Unless you feel you need "a real diagnosis". Which can be a good thing and eliminates a possible nerve issue.

    1) Rest. Sorry but it really is best. I have to go anywhere from 5 days off to 2 weeks off for it. Sorry.

    2) Ice massage, and just plain ole ice, ice, ice. I have iced it all day long (literally, strap a plastic baggie of ice to the ankle and replace it all day long). By doing this I was able to have near pain free running in 5 days for my last flare up.

    3) Advil or Aleve helps a lot. I think the combo of all three of these steps had me up and going in 5 days pre Las Vegas Rock and Roll HM.

    After the pain subsides, stretching is the best way to keep it from happening again. I do a stretch where I point my toes straight as possible, then try to form the entire alpahbet moving my foot around as if I have a pencil/pen/paint brush in between my toes. I go through the ABC's twice a day with each foot AM and PM.

    Hope this helps! Thanks for your blog. really enjoy reading it. Take care!

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  8. i totally agree with you. God sometimes uses the set backs in our lives to call us back into His arms. where we learn to trust and surrender. i read both of your last two posts today and i think its really interesting how the idea of "submitting" applies to our spiritual lives as well as our married lives. its much more natural and easier to accept that we should submit to God, but sometimes its just as challenging to do that as it is to submit to our husbands.

    i see you "submitting" to this set back and "submitting" to God's plan. you might be better at this submission thing than you give yourself credit for :)

    your attitude is seriously amazing. thanks for reminding me that this race is God's!

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  9. I'm so glad you're recovering from your injury! I'm so sorry about the tears. There there, it's ok. It will get better, and you will be stronger.

    I wrote a big long response - but it was massive so I think I'll turn it into a blog post. =P Your thoughts here really touched me and rang so very true. "Let go and let God." He is in control and knows everything you need. Trust...all will be well.

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  10. Thanks for the comment on my blog! It seemed like we had almost the exact same comments across a number of blogs, so I figured I should probably follow you, haha And your PR times across the various distances are basically exactly what I'm shooting for this summer in my races too =)

    That is a real bummer about your foot. I think Generation X's suggestions above are good. Icing is always good, and can't hurt. Good luck with recovering, I really hope you are able to run Boston, maybe even just run it for fun if you think you can (not sure if you're ran it before), but it sounds like the entire race experience is amazing.

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